The Leprechaun is!
I love April with all its public holidays. All the looooong weekends have given us time to do some DIY projects. Today we bought the wood to build an additional cupboard. The Leprechaun has put it together and I have stain varnished it to fit with the rest of my furniture, unfortunately we need another tin and a bit of varnish to complete it... SIGH. I can't wait to put all my sexy little shoes on the bottom shelf. I think it is going to be great.
I really appreciate that my little Leprechaun can do DIY stuff... and know what he is doing. Ja, ja, I can hear you... so can't you do it Suzy? Of course I can, afterall, he used my tools. Tools that I know how to use, but here goes the pearl of wisdom...
Girls, take note... Let the man in the house swing the tools. I don't know why, but it makes them feel manly.
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Can beggars be choosers?
Yes! Definitely!
Why do people think that when you are single you can't choose to wait until you've met the right person? I don't think there is anything wrong with being 30 and not married. A piece of paper won't really make such a big difference in your life - unless it is a ticket to some exotic destination.
Who wants to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship anyway? A warm body in bed that you don't care for = a can of rotten peas, but a warm body that you care for = someone to share that last rolo with!
Another reason to rather be a chooser... the high rate of divorces.
Anyway, so I got a comment on my previous post... and the person thinks I'm single. Ok, so the cat has been out of the bag for... um oh well, more than a year - I'm engaged. Have been for more than a year now... to my Leprechaun.
Why do people think that when you are single you can't choose to wait until you've met the right person? I don't think there is anything wrong with being 30 and not married. A piece of paper won't really make such a big difference in your life - unless it is a ticket to some exotic destination.
Who wants to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship anyway? A warm body in bed that you don't care for = a can of rotten peas, but a warm body that you care for = someone to share that last rolo with!
Another reason to rather be a chooser... the high rate of divorces.
Anyway, so I got a comment on my previous post... and the person thinks I'm single. Ok, so the cat has been out of the bag for... um oh well, more than a year - I'm engaged. Have been for more than a year now... to my Leprechaun.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Don't Date Down
Yeah, you know what I mean... dating down is a no-no.
Simple Scenario:
X dates Y
X is not rich, but smart as hell
Y is rich, but dumb as hell
X is thus the one dating down. Y is dating up (which is completely acceptable).
Anyone can make or loose money, thus Y is actually no better/richer than X.
So, get your priorities straight and look for someone that is on your intelligence level. If a social level is more important... then get someone on your level.
Simple Scenario:
X dates Y
X is not rich, but smart as hell
Y is rich, but dumb as hell
X is thus the one dating down. Y is dating up (which is completely acceptable).
Anyone can make or loose money, thus Y is actually no better/richer than X.
So, get your priorities straight and look for someone that is on your intelligence level. If a social level is more important... then get someone on your level.
Saturday, March 28, 2009
All work no play relationships
One or both married to the job? No good...
You have to have balance in a relationship. Some play, some work and good quality time together.
See, after 30 the pearls of wisdom just spill from my keyboard.
You have to have balance in a relationship. Some play, some work and good quality time together.
See, after 30 the pearls of wisdom just spill from my keyboard.
Friday, March 27, 2009
The Getaway
It really is great to be in a relationship with someone like my Leprechaun. Not only doesn't he nag (like some men do) when I want to shop a little; nor does he complain too much that I wake at 6am and by 7am wake him to get ready for the beach; and spends the whole day on the beach; and have the little romantic streak to take me for those tedious beach strolls (I know, it is not easy walking on beach sand)...
So anyway, my pearl of wisdom for the day (now that I am 30...)
Dating someone that does not share your interests will make it a little harder to spend quality time together. You may be so different that between work and hobbies you only get to spend an hour a day together before going to bed.
So anyway, my pearl of wisdom for the day (now that I am 30...)
Dating someone that does not share your interests will make it a little harder to spend quality time together. You may be so different that between work and hobbies you only get to spend an hour a day together before going to bed.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
I'm in the mood to dish out some wisdom...
I've been reading the Adv. Barbie/Cezanne case on and off in the newspapers. On the one hand I feel sorry for her, on the other I think that what she did was just despicable.
The Summary:
This chick got involved with an older man. He is a bit twisted and manipulative - so he took over playing god with this chick. They got caught doing some nasty stuff and he skipped the country leaving her to face the music.
The Lessons: (you know how much I love my lessons)
The Summary:
This chick got involved with an older man. He is a bit twisted and manipulative - so he took over playing god with this chick. They got caught doing some nasty stuff and he skipped the country leaving her to face the music.
The Lessons: (you know how much I love my lessons)
- If you date a pervert and play along, you will eventually get caught - you'll go to jail and be somebody's bitch.
- If you are in an abusive relationship, you can get out. Dial a number, get out, stay out.
- You don't need to sink as low as the person you are dating.
- If you want to sing for the world, make sure you can actually sing.
- Date someone you respect AND that respects you.
Happy Birthday to ME
... and then there was 2 days left of being in my 20s!
Interestingly enough my life is not more interesting than it was 2 seconds ago. I'm still watching movies and working a whole lot.
I better get good presents this year. Else I will change my will and leave everyone a zap.
Interestingly enough my life is not more interesting than it was 2 seconds ago. I'm still watching movies and working a whole lot.
I better get good presents this year. Else I will change my will and leave everyone a zap.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
When can I start feeling young again?
30. It really is a big number.
I can still remember my 21st birthday. Standing in the kitchen making all the snacks with my then boyfriend. My best friend arriving late and cleaning out the plates - while talking more than everybody put together.
On my 25th I got horribly drunk on red wine with one of my dearest friends. The poor guy even offered to help me puke (really disgusting, isn't it?). The next day I had a hell of a hangover.
My 28th was fabulous. 5 girls on holiday in Ballito. The night out... the drinks were cheap and I got a lot of free drinks. I was really drunk - at least I had no hangover the next morning.
Why is it that when you turn 30 (or older) it really is just a depressing affair? Don't bs me and tell me I should have a big party because it will make it all better. BS. It won't turn back time, therefore I really don't need to hear "aaah the big 3 0..." wow.
Anyway, if you are still young enough to think birthdays are fun, sod off and go stand in a corner. You make me sick. Speak to me when you turn 30.
I can still remember my 21st birthday. Standing in the kitchen making all the snacks with my then boyfriend. My best friend arriving late and cleaning out the plates - while talking more than everybody put together.
On my 25th I got horribly drunk on red wine with one of my dearest friends. The poor guy even offered to help me puke (really disgusting, isn't it?). The next day I had a hell of a hangover.
My 28th was fabulous. 5 girls on holiday in Ballito. The night out... the drinks were cheap and I got a lot of free drinks. I was really drunk - at least I had no hangover the next morning.
Why is it that when you turn 30 (or older) it really is just a depressing affair? Don't bs me and tell me I should have a big party because it will make it all better. BS. It won't turn back time, therefore I really don't need to hear "aaah the big 3 0..." wow.
Anyway, if you are still young enough to think birthdays are fun, sod off and go stand in a corner. You make me sick. Speak to me when you turn 30.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
How to survive a break-up
Life throws us many curves, sometimes more than we think we can cope with.
I've been through a lot of break-ups / make-ups and final demises of relationships. Some were particularly hard to get over - others not so much.
Get Stuff
You don't have to go all out to get all new stuff, but changing bedding for a room or changing the colour scheme of 1 area will already be a step in the right direction. As soon as you start erasing the lousy ex's existence from your home, you take away the hold he has and memories of him. (This speeds up the recovering time after a break-up.)
Get a really sexy number to wear out. It doesn't have to be super reavealing or tight, just something that makes you feel like a million bucks.
Connect with Friends
Even if you neglected your friend while you were in a relationship with someone, they will take you back. Friends are forgiving - and besides, everyone understands.
Meet new people. Get your ass out of the house and stop pondering about the what ifs and could have beens. You need to get out and live a life that you never even dreamt about. Join a book club or something.
Get a Hobby
Are you one of those hobbyless people? Then get a hobby. It doesn't have to have sticking power - it just has to be enjoyable for now.
Delete that number
There is a reason it didn't work out. Doesn't matter if it were you or him/her that ended the relationship. Save the number under asshole or idiot if you have to. (It works for me...)
Get Pretty
Go for that facial or day at the spa (invite a friend). You will feel much better for a few hours.
Try a new colour lipstick or shoes - or dress.
Conclusion
You were whole before and you will be whole one day again. Besides he/she never deserved someone like you in the first place.
When you get older... different things matter more than the low-life idiot you dated.
I've been through a lot of break-ups / make-ups and final demises of relationships. Some were particularly hard to get over - others not so much.
Get Stuff
You don't have to go all out to get all new stuff, but changing bedding for a room or changing the colour scheme of 1 area will already be a step in the right direction. As soon as you start erasing the lousy ex's existence from your home, you take away the hold he has and memories of him. (This speeds up the recovering time after a break-up.)
Get a really sexy number to wear out. It doesn't have to be super reavealing or tight, just something that makes you feel like a million bucks.
Connect with Friends
Even if you neglected your friend while you were in a relationship with someone, they will take you back. Friends are forgiving - and besides, everyone understands.
Meet new people. Get your ass out of the house and stop pondering about the what ifs and could have beens. You need to get out and live a life that you never even dreamt about. Join a book club or something.
Get a Hobby
Are you one of those hobbyless people? Then get a hobby. It doesn't have to have sticking power - it just has to be enjoyable for now.
Delete that number
There is a reason it didn't work out. Doesn't matter if it were you or him/her that ended the relationship. Save the number under asshole or idiot if you have to. (It works for me...)
Get Pretty
Go for that facial or day at the spa (invite a friend). You will feel much better for a few hours.
Try a new colour lipstick or shoes - or dress.
Conclusion
You were whole before and you will be whole one day again. Besides he/she never deserved someone like you in the first place.
When you get older... different things matter more than the low-life idiot you dated.
Monday, March 9, 2009
Catch and Release
I watched Catch & Release this weekend. A real tear jerker - but with a good lesson (or 2).
Summary:
The groom drives off for his bachelor's weekend and dies. His funeral then takes place on their wedding day. The bride-to-be/widow
then finds herself in the midst of lots of drama ie. Mom-in-law asks for the family heirloom on her finger and a possible child that her departed beloved supported.
Facts:
Summary:
The groom drives off for his bachelor's weekend and dies. His funeral then takes place on their wedding day. The bride-to-be/widow
then finds herself in the midst of lots of drama ie. Mom-in-law asks for the family heirloom on her finger and a possible child that her departed beloved supported.
Facts:
- Women tend to rely on their boyfriends/fiances/husbands too much and then something happens and they suddenly have to get up and take control.
- Women tend to trust too easily and are always the last to know about affairs.
- Some women too easily let their bf/fiances take the lead in the relationship - when this ends the woman is left to drown in normal life.
- If you live with a guy (and depend on his share of the rent etc) then you need to have a signed contract/agreement.
- Never just trust your partner blindly, but don't be completely psycho about his getaway weekends.
- Get your will done if you intend on getting married but put a clause in that says this part only kicks in when you are married etc. (In the event of you procrastinating with your will in future.)
- Make sure you can afford to maintain a lifestyle and home even if it is just for a few months after a break-up/death - just until you can get a new roommate or move to something cheaper.
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