Yes! Definitely!
Why do people think that when you are single you can't choose to wait until you've met the right person? I don't think there is anything wrong with being 30 and not married. A piece of paper won't really make such a big difference in your life - unless it is a ticket to some exotic destination.
Who wants to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship anyway? A warm body in bed that you don't care for = a can of rotten peas, but a warm body that you care for = someone to share that last rolo with!
Another reason to rather be a chooser... the high rate of divorces.
Anyway, so I got a comment on my previous post... and the person thinks I'm single. Ok, so the cat has been out of the bag for... um oh well, more than a year - I'm engaged. Have been for more than a year now... to my Leprechaun.
Showing posts with label being single. Show all posts
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Saturday, April 18, 2009
Sunday, July 29, 2007
The truth is...
Men are scared to talk to me. That is the truth. I don't know if its because I'm always with friends or if it looks like I'm unfriendly...
On a girl's weekend away we went clubbing in Brits. So, there are a lot of single men - so one might expect that these men would at least try to talk to you and not just check you out...like everybody seemed to be doing.
As I was walking to the bar, apparently this guy checked me out head to toe (from behind) and as my friend saw this she encouraged him to ask me to dance. As I came back from the bar the guy stepped in front of me and introduced himself.
The only problem I had with the guy was that he thought that he could have his hands on me within 5 mins of meeting me. Yes, I do understand that a guy might find me attractive and would love to have his hands around my middle, but lets just say this guys - I'm not just any girl. I like my personal space and for you to be allowed into that space may take a lo......ng time.
On a girl's weekend away we went clubbing in Brits. So, there are a lot of single men - so one might expect that these men would at least try to talk to you and not just check you out...like everybody seemed to be doing.
As I was walking to the bar, apparently this guy checked me out head to toe (from behind) and as my friend saw this she encouraged him to ask me to dance. As I came back from the bar the guy stepped in front of me and introduced himself.
The only problem I had with the guy was that he thought that he could have his hands on me within 5 mins of meeting me. Yes, I do understand that a guy might find me attractive and would love to have his hands around my middle, but lets just say this guys - I'm not just any girl. I like my personal space and for you to be allowed into that space may take a lo......ng time.
Friday, July 27, 2007
Two months to my reunion...
The closer my reunion gets the more I think I shouldn't go...
I know, it's ridiculous. Why should a perfectly gorgeous girl have trouble finding a date for a weekend away?
The thing is, I don't want to take just anyone. If I do take someone, he should be someone that is part of my life... or means something to me.
Right now I'm thinking of two guys that fit these criteria:
Best friend since primary school (that just happens to live back home)
The person that knows me better than most people (that just happens to live in Joburg)
Now the first guy I can ask - no problem. I do have one problem with him tho - he talks too much, more than any other human being I have ever met in my life!
The second guy is a little more complicated... I'm not even going to try explain that one!
So... two months to go and I need to get my act together and demand a favor. :)
I know, it's ridiculous. Why should a perfectly gorgeous girl have trouble finding a date for a weekend away?
The thing is, I don't want to take just anyone. If I do take someone, he should be someone that is part of my life... or means something to me.
Right now I'm thinking of two guys that fit these criteria:
Best friend since primary school (that just happens to live back home)
The person that knows me better than most people (that just happens to live in Joburg)
Now the first guy I can ask - no problem. I do have one problem with him tho - he talks too much, more than any other human being I have ever met in my life!
The second guy is a little more complicated... I'm not even going to try explain that one!
So... two months to go and I need to get my act together and demand a favor. :)
Bachelorettes and all things nice
It's nice being able to just pack up and go somewhere for a weekend with your friends. It's even nicer if you have more alcohol than you could possibly consume - or so you would think.
This was the last weekend that all of us were still without a wedding band (not all of us are single) and we were gonna make this a memorable weekend.
I always enjoy the drunken conversations you have at 2 in the morning with friends. (Unless of course someone is more sober than you.)
BTW for those that don't know, Brits' nightlife really rocks - if you are into langarm!:)
This was the last weekend that all of us were still without a wedding band (not all of us are single) and we were gonna make this a memorable weekend.
I always enjoy the drunken conversations you have at 2 in the morning with friends. (Unless of course someone is more sober than you.)
BTW for those that don't know, Brits' nightlife really rocks - if you are into langarm!:)
When you listen to tales of friends...
So yesterday I had a really deep conversation with a friend. He is 28, successful, single - and an absolute dish according to me - and he is broody.
Men get broody?
Yes, apparently it happens that men sometimes feel that they have it all... except a mini-me. They actually really get depressed about not having offspring...
The other half of the problem is that this guy is probably too decent for most Joburg girls. (Yes, he is straight - I know that for a fact.) Plus he won't settle for just anyone - so no, you cannot ask me for his contact details!
The only reason I mentioned this conversation is because I actually understand how my friend feels. I think most people reaching their late twenties have this empty feeling if they're single and ... well, childless.
Who ever said it's fun being single? Torture them!
Men get broody?
Yes, apparently it happens that men sometimes feel that they have it all... except a mini-me. They actually really get depressed about not having offspring...
The other half of the problem is that this guy is probably too decent for most Joburg girls. (Yes, he is straight - I know that for a fact.) Plus he won't settle for just anyone - so no, you cannot ask me for his contact details!
The only reason I mentioned this conversation is because I actually understand how my friend feels. I think most people reaching their late twenties have this empty feeling if they're single and ... well, childless.
Who ever said it's fun being single? Torture them!
Saturday, June 16, 2007
WHEN YOU’RE BLUE AND LONELY (part 2)
Home alone and getting drunk
I never used to drink wine. I never used to drink on my own. I never used to be on my own. Should I be worried about my new drinking habit?
I hate that I’m as pathetic as this and single. I sometimes just can’t handle the silence at home… so I try to relax. I drink 1 glass… and I fall asleep on the couch.
Yeah, I’m that cheap a date!
The emotional eater
Food and eating is not a comfort. It creates a vicious circle.
You are unhappy about being single, therefore you eat. You gain weight. Now you are single, fat and unhappy so you eat more.
I’m the first to admit that I’m an emotional eater. I weighed a lot 3 months back… I couldn’t fit into anything. I’m now almost my old size and can fit into most of my clothes. Yes, I do sometimes fall of the dieting wagon because I’m feeling umhappy, but then I gain a kg and get right back to the diet.
I never used to drink wine. I never used to drink on my own. I never used to be on my own. Should I be worried about my new drinking habit?
I hate that I’m as pathetic as this and single. I sometimes just can’t handle the silence at home… so I try to relax. I drink 1 glass… and I fall asleep on the couch.
Yeah, I’m that cheap a date!
The emotional eater
Food and eating is not a comfort. It creates a vicious circle.
You are unhappy about being single, therefore you eat. You gain weight. Now you are single, fat and unhappy so you eat more.
I’m the first to admit that I’m an emotional eater. I weighed a lot 3 months back… I couldn’t fit into anything. I’m now almost my old size and can fit into most of my clothes. Yes, I do sometimes fall of the dieting wagon because I’m feeling umhappy, but then I gain a kg and get right back to the diet.
When your friends and you are a intimidating force to be reckoned with… and scare men away
What if that fabulous group of friends you hang with, intimidate men?
I’ve heard that it’s not all that appealing for men to have to walk up to a couple of girls to try and introduce himself to a woman that caught his eye. I tend to understand this.
So what now?
Guess you will have to sometimes leave the comfort of the group to give potentials the opportunity…
Or maybe you are, like me, of the opinion that if he doesn’t have enough balls now… then he just isn’t man enough.
I’ve heard that it’s not all that appealing for men to have to walk up to a couple of girls to try and introduce himself to a woman that caught his eye. I tend to understand this.
So what now?
Guess you will have to sometimes leave the comfort of the group to give potentials the opportunity…
Or maybe you are, like me, of the opinion that if he doesn’t have enough balls now… then he just isn’t man enough.
That damn 10 year reunion… what will I do for a date?
I always wondered how it would be to go to my reunion. I never wondered on who I’ll need to ask to be my date for a weekend.
This is definitely not how I pictured the reunion scenario. Me being single 10 years after leaving school. Me being single 6 months after splitting from a 3 year relationship. I really did not imagine this.
The big question is if I’m brave enough to go alone or will I ask some random guy to drive a 1000km with me because I’m just too much of a coward? Mmm
Right now I’m swinging towards asking a random guy. 10 mins from now I’ll probably feel that it’ll just be a drag to have a guy there.
This is definitely not how I pictured the reunion scenario. Me being single 10 years after leaving school. Me being single 6 months after splitting from a 3 year relationship. I really did not imagine this.
The big question is if I’m brave enough to go alone or will I ask some random guy to drive a 1000km with me because I’m just too much of a coward? Mmm
Right now I’m swinging towards asking a random guy. 10 mins from now I’ll probably feel that it’ll just be a drag to have a guy there.
Monday, May 14, 2007
Umm, you do what when you’re lonely?
I know, it’s sometimes really hard to stop yourself from over spending or eating when you have the lonely blues. I’m on a diet… I gained more than 10kgs in 6 months! (while dating the ex) I should’ve had someone to stop me, but I was too busy being miserable in the relationship and that I’m so fat.
The BIG lonely appetite
Ok, food is your friend in moderation. Anything that oozes oil and sugar is not good if you have bags and bags of it.
The BIG emotional spending monster
Honey, it’s not worth getting yourself into financial trouble. The high of shopping wears off after a day and then you’ve maxed out your credit card and you have a pile of clothes that you don’t really have space for in your cupboard or would actually ever wear.
The BIG toy buyer
I went to one of ‘these’ parties recently – all in the name of research of course. I don’t know if I was the only person that felt embarrassed by the selection of toys… and the stripper. However, I did note a few huge purchases by girls – huge as in R500+. The girls attending the ‘party’ (that wasn’t newbies like us) was not shy in asking questions. All in all I would say that this was a very informative ‘party’. Now you’re asking – will she go again… ummm, *blush* I think that maybe I’m just too old fashioned!
The BIG lonely appetite
Ok, food is your friend in moderation. Anything that oozes oil and sugar is not good if you have bags and bags of it.
The BIG emotional spending monster
Honey, it’s not worth getting yourself into financial trouble. The high of shopping wears off after a day and then you’ve maxed out your credit card and you have a pile of clothes that you don’t really have space for in your cupboard or would actually ever wear.
The BIG toy buyer
I went to one of ‘these’ parties recently – all in the name of research of course. I don’t know if I was the only person that felt embarrassed by the selection of toys… and the stripper. However, I did note a few huge purchases by girls – huge as in R500+. The girls attending the ‘party’ (that wasn’t newbies like us) was not shy in asking questions. All in all I would say that this was a very informative ‘party’. Now you’re asking – will she go again… ummm, *blush* I think that maybe I’m just too old fashioned!
When do you give up on finding the love of your life?
Ok, I admit, today I'm past feeling blue. I actually feel black.
Lets face it, I have met many wonderful guys online and offline... and there are still a few that I need to meet (that I'm chatting to), but I'm just about ready to accept that as smart and pretty as I am, I might end up being a spinster.
Am I a bit pre-mature in throwing in the towel?
Right now, according to me - I should've thrown in the towel before I met my previous ex. I think I could've saved myself a lot of unnecessary time with a guy that would not be man enough for me.
Let me ask this. How many of you are tired of always dating the wrong guys? By this I mean: the whiner, sleaze bag, anti commitment guy, etc? I know that I am.
What's my plans?
mmm I think I'll just party more. At least I have single friends that are just fantabulous!
Lets face it, I have met many wonderful guys online and offline... and there are still a few that I need to meet (that I'm chatting to), but I'm just about ready to accept that as smart and pretty as I am, I might end up being a spinster.
Am I a bit pre-mature in throwing in the towel?
Right now, according to me - I should've thrown in the towel before I met my previous ex. I think I could've saved myself a lot of unnecessary time with a guy that would not be man enough for me.
Let me ask this. How many of you are tired of always dating the wrong guys? By this I mean: the whiner, sleaze bag, anti commitment guy, etc? I know that I am.
What's my plans?
mmm I think I'll just party more. At least I have single friends that are just fantabulous!
What to do when you're feeling blue
All of us get those days where we just feel really lonely. Maybe its because you used to have someone in your life that was there when you needed them (or not). Maybe its just because you stopped partying for a single moment and then it hit you like a ton of bricks.
I get those days. I have it today. Yes, I know that I joke about keeping my options open and all that, but I actually would really like to have someone in my life. No, that doesn't mean I'll settle for just any guy... I'd rather feel like today. Thank you.
How to deal with feeling like the loneliest person in the world
mmm right now I feel like eating a huge slice of chocolate cake, but as we all know, I'm dieting. So, I guess I'll stare at a picture of a really nice cake on the internet and try remember just how cake tastes.
But... this is what I usually do after work (when feeling blue):
I pick up a nice dinner from Woolies
Take a long bath
Have dinner in front of the TV
Then switch on my laptop and chat to people
if that doesn't help...
I get into bed
and cry 'till I fall asleep
So, to simplify. Do something when you are lonely to keep your mind busy.
I get those days. I have it today. Yes, I know that I joke about keeping my options open and all that, but I actually would really like to have someone in my life. No, that doesn't mean I'll settle for just any guy... I'd rather feel like today. Thank you.
How to deal with feeling like the loneliest person in the world
mmm right now I feel like eating a huge slice of chocolate cake, but as we all know, I'm dieting. So, I guess I'll stare at a picture of a really nice cake on the internet and try remember just how cake tastes.
But... this is what I usually do after work (when feeling blue):
I pick up a nice dinner from Woolies
Take a long bath
Have dinner in front of the TV
Then switch on my laptop and chat to people
if that doesn't help...
I get into bed
and cry 'till I fall asleep
So, to simplify. Do something when you are lonely to keep your mind busy.
Wednesday, March 7, 2007
Your guide to a fabulous outing
The live sporting event
We know that you’re probably not a sports fanatic – but you know what, men are. Get your girlfriends and go! I promise you will attract many a sports fanatic’s eye and have loads of eye candy. Best of all you would’ve experienced a fun day/night out.
* We went to a one day international between South Africa and Pakistan – on Valentine’s Day. We decided only at noon that … mmm
why not? We walked two kilometers to the stadium – on heels and in office wear. We enjoyed this adventure tremendously!
Night at a trendy restaurant
Drag those lazy single friends out to a trendy restaurant for dinner and cocktails – you might be lucky enough to have a cute waiter or better yet, a table right next to you filled with guys! Plus – you don’t have to try eat one of those TV dinners you live on!
The physical activity night out
Volleyball, tenpin bowling, whatever – if you’re not a player, go as a proud supporter. You will probably enjoy the scenery more than expected!
* We went to a company teambuilding event and ended up being the last people to leave. I should probably mention that the barmen were young and dangerously hot. We had body shots off them – and they were the ones insisting on making us drink!
Learning new skills
Have you ever considered learning to play poker? This is a skill based game – and you may one day play against a cute guy that you can impress. Did I mention this is a fun activity to play with the girls and guys alike? (Un)Fortunately we are not that adventurous - but you could always play strip poker
* We played poker with the guys after a wild night out. The guys appreciated the competition and company – and we only got to bed at five in the morning. I felt like a train drove over me – twice, but it was worth the good company.
We know that you’re probably not a sports fanatic – but you know what, men are. Get your girlfriends and go! I promise you will attract many a sports fanatic’s eye and have loads of eye candy. Best of all you would’ve experienced a fun day/night out.
* We went to a one day international between South Africa and Pakistan – on Valentine’s Day. We decided only at noon that … mmm
why not? We walked two kilometers to the stadium – on heels and in office wear. We enjoyed this adventure tremendously!
Night at a trendy restaurant
Drag those lazy single friends out to a trendy restaurant for dinner and cocktails – you might be lucky enough to have a cute waiter or better yet, a table right next to you filled with guys! Plus – you don’t have to try eat one of those TV dinners you live on!
The physical activity night out
Volleyball, tenpin bowling, whatever – if you’re not a player, go as a proud supporter. You will probably enjoy the scenery more than expected!
* We went to a company teambuilding event and ended up being the last people to leave. I should probably mention that the barmen were young and dangerously hot. We had body shots off them – and they were the ones insisting on making us drink!
Learning new skills
Have you ever considered learning to play poker? This is a skill based game – and you may one day play against a cute guy that you can impress. Did I mention this is a fun activity to play with the girls and guys alike? (Un)Fortunately we are not that adventurous - but you could always play strip poker
* We played poker with the guys after a wild night out. The guys appreciated the competition and company – and we only got to bed at five in the morning. I felt like a train drove over me – twice, but it was worth the good company.
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