When your support structure crumbles

In the last 6 months I have made good friends that I can rely on. Friends that are there for me. Friends that I would do almost anything for.

This friend/supporting structure has received a really bad blow this weekend. I have drawn the boundaries and given an ultimatum, either you apologise for the weekend or I cannot have you around.

I know it sounds harsh, but I believe that if you did something wrong, you apologise. If you can't, then you obviously don't care enough about the friendship.

Is it possible to be friends with someone you dated?

I was forced to ask myself this question by an ex. The answer from my side is a definite yes... but I have to question why he doesn't want to spend time with me alone.

I have my theories, but... let's hear what you think.

The two steps back syndrome

I'm at a stage right now that whenever someone gets too close I feel like I'm suffocating. I have these horrible flashbacks of the relationship that I was in and I choke. I literally see myself being wrapped up and placed right back in the display case and I just can't do it. I can't.

I know, some day I'm going to have to get over my fear of dating the wrong guy again... but in the meanwhile I just need to breathe.

When you listen to tales of friends...

So yesterday I had a really deep conversation with a friend. He is 28, successful, single - and an absolute dish according to me - and he is broody.

Men get broody?
Yes, apparently it happens that men sometimes feel that they have it all... except a mini-me. They actually really get depressed about not having offspring...

The other half of the problem is that this guy is probably too decent for most Joburg girls. (Yes, he is straight - I know that for a fact.) Plus he won't settle for just anyone - so no, you cannot ask me for his contact details!

The only reason I mentioned this conversation is because I actually understand how my friend feels. I think most people reaching their late twenties have this empty feeling if they're single and ... well, childless.

Who ever said it's fun being single? Torture them!

When your friends and you are a intimidating force to be reckoned with… and scare men away

What if that fabulous group of friends you hang with, intimidate men?

I’ve heard that it’s not all that appealing for men to have to walk up to a couple of girls to try and introduce himself to a woman that caught his eye. I tend to understand this.

So what now?
Guess you will have to sometimes leave the comfort of the group to give potentials the opportunity…

Or maybe you are, like me, of the opinion that if he doesn’t have enough balls now… then he just isn’t man enough.