Friends and Neighbours

Winter definitely has arrived in all its force. It is dark by 5:30 in the afternoon and the wind has a chill that makes me reach for a jacket.

We have had quite a few hectic weeks at home with my family visiting and we are solidly booked for the next 2 weeks as well. I really don't understand the need to be social during winter. I can think of nothing better than to sit in front of the gas heater with a balnket and my favoutite Jelliebean - while the Leprechaun makes dinner.

We're good friends with our neighbours right next door and for the last 2 years we have shared break-ups, new boyfriends, tragedies and lots of coffee. Last week was definitely one of the saddest days as my neighbour's cat was killed by a speedster in the complex we live in. So, after taking the body for cremation at my vet, we were pretty upset and decided to all just have dinner together - for the first time with the new boyfriend.

So anyway, that is the small talk done. Now for some pearls of wisdom!

I can definitely see that opposites attract (sometimes). The guys are so different with Neighbour being the party animal of note and New Guy being so laid back. It just shows you that even if you dated bad boys in the past, it never is too late to let the good guys win.

Until after Xmas then

Enjoy Christmas with your loved ones, whet ever you are in Africa or the states!

I will be back online just after Xmas.

Every relationship | adds something new to your life

In my opinion, every relationship has some good. It might not be the biggest part or the part that you will remember after the relationship ends, but still ... you might have found something that is you in this relationship.

In a new relationship you (usually) get exposed to new things - things that were there, but never entered your little world. It might be something as simple as a dish or a band.

A guy that I dated in one of my very first relationships in Johannesburg, opened a new world of music to me. I used to listen only to pop and rock - but never heavy rock. To this day, I love listening to Linkin Park.

Another thing that has stayed with me was a line in a letter that a guy gave to me. It went something along the lines of: He wishes that he could enjoy life the way I do. Yes, it may come from a time that I didn't have a mortage and car to pay, but sometimes, just sometimes, I still see those words and I wonder, why am I not just jumping and doing the things that I want - then of course I convince myself and do it.

With my fiance I learnt that curries aren't bad and that his cheesecake "fetish" sometimes is a bad thing :) oh, and that not all Leprechauns wear bells on their shoes.

2007 and Dating

For all those lonely hearts out there, 2008 may just be the year that you find the love of your life - so, never give up.

I know that the holiday period comes with some sadness and loneliness too - but, you know what, life is too short to sit around and mope, so get busy and do something (anything).

Yes, I've finished writing my "How To Become A (Real) Serial Dater" book and now it is with a literary agent - so keep your fingers crossed! I will however never stop writing this blog, never fear!

Wishing you all a merry Christmas and a prosperous 2008!

Serial Dating Blunders (continued)

Scenario 9: Mr Nerd Alert
I feel pretty bad about this one… but I couldn’t make myself sit down at a table with a guy that wears a check shirt with a tie and a pee-pot hairstyle.
I just walked past and never contacted him again.

Scenario 10: Mr Mentally Unstable aka Mr Co-worker
Read the Dating Diaries, Mr Co-worker. This is a real gem of a story.

After 2 years of saying no to dates with this guy and using the excuse that I don’t date co-workers, I resigned from the company. On my final day I went ‘round saying goodbye to everyone including this guy.

Apparently when I was out of earshot, Mr Co-worker told everyone what a bitch I am and that he was glad that I am gone.

The weird thing is, he send me a sms asking me out for coffee and he phoned me to ask me out on a date the weekend after I left the company. I’m just glad I didn’t accept this psycho’s invites.

Scenario 11: Mr Doesn’t Get The Message aka Mr Co-worker
Read the Dating Diaries, Mr Co-worker – sorry, but this guy gave me a lot of material to write about!

This guy asked out every girl in one of my previous companies. If a girl says no… he’ll ask out the next one. If everyone says no, he would start again at the beginning.

He would take a simple greeting and think that is a come-on to ask you out.

Date 16: The Coffee Date (English guy)

Apparently I am the first girl he met off the internet but I won’t be the last one to find him a bit rude.

Why? He kept on checking out the cricket score. I know that I can hold down a conversation, but this was me against the score.

The Explanation:
Nice one asking a girl out for coffee and then watching cricket. All attention on the girl buddy. Thanks.

The Verdict
No.

Date 17: The Drink-A-Jerkoff (English guy)

I seem to attract weirdos. Lots of them.

He got the compliments part right. As the night progressed Mr got turned on and thought that he could share that piece of information with me. Then he really stuck his foot in it by asking me if I would be willing to touch him. It got worse… when I declined “his generous offer”, he ased if he could jerk-off so we could continue the date.

The Explanation:
Guys, unless you know that a girl is the type to just do it with anyone – don’t share. Women are not there for your sexual pleasure. You will treat us with the utmost respect.

The Verdict
No. No. No. No. No. No. No…

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