Monday, July 30, 2007

Is it possible to be friends with someone you dated?

I was forced to ask myself this question by an ex. The answer from my side is a definite yes... but I have to question why he doesn't want to spend time with me alone.

I have my theories, but... let's hear what you think.

Repeating the mistakes of the past - or the fear thereof

I have an admirer. He phones me daily, he emails me, he Gtalks me - and sometimes I just want it to stop. I just want to be able to not have to explain where I've been or what I've been doing or why I won't be online tonight. I don't want to have to explain that I'm not in a good mood either and that it's not because I have pms - it's just because.

I know that I sound selfish. I really don't care. I'm not involved and I seriously cannot be expected to act as if I'm involved.

I have done this before where I've just given in to a guy that came on too strong and ended up dating him for 3 years. 3 miserable years. I'm not doing it again.

The two steps back syndrome

I'm at a stage right now that whenever someone gets too close I feel like I'm suffocating. I have these horrible flashbacks of the relationship that I was in and I choke. I literally see myself being wrapped up and placed right back in the display case and I just can't do it. I can't.

I know, some day I'm going to have to get over my fear of dating the wrong guy again... but in the meanwhile I just need to breathe.

Sunday, July 29, 2007

The truth is...

Men are scared to talk to me. That is the truth. I don't know if its because I'm always with friends or if it looks like I'm unfriendly...

On a girl's weekend away we went clubbing in Brits. So, there are a lot of single men - so one might expect that these men would at least try to talk to you and not just check you everybody seemed to be doing.

As I was walking to the bar, apparently this guy checked me out head to toe (from behind) and as my friend saw this she encouraged him to ask me to dance. As I came back from the bar the guy stepped in front of me and introduced himself.

The only problem I had with the guy was that he thought that he could have his hands on me within 5 mins of meeting me. Yes, I do understand that a guy might find me attractive and would love to have his hands around my middle, but lets just say this guys - I'm not just any girl. I like my personal space and for you to be allowed into that space may take a time.

Friday, July 27, 2007

Two months to my reunion...

The closer my reunion gets the more I think I shouldn't go...

I know, it's ridiculous. Why should a perfectly gorgeous girl have trouble finding a date for a weekend away?

The thing is, I don't want to take just anyone. If I do take someone, he should be someone that is part of my life... or means something to me.

Right now I'm thinking of two guys that fit these criteria:
Best friend since primary school (that just happens to live back home)
The person that knows me better than most people (that just happens to live in Joburg)

Now the first guy I can ask - no problem. I do have one problem with him tho - he talks too much, more than any other human being I have ever met in my life!
The second guy is a little more complicated... I'm not even going to try explain that one!

So... two months to go and I need to get my act together and demand a favor. :)

Bachelorettes and all things nice

It's nice being able to just pack up and go somewhere for a weekend with your friends. It's even nicer if you have more alcohol than you could possibly consume - or so you would think.

This was the last weekend that all of us were still without a wedding band (not all of us are single) and we were gonna make this a memorable weekend.

I always enjoy the drunken conversations you have at 2 in the morning with friends. (Unless of course someone is more sober than you.)

BTW for those that don't know, Brits' nightlife really rocks - if you are into langarm!:)

When you listen to tales of friends...

So yesterday I had a really deep conversation with a friend. He is 28, successful, single - and an absolute dish according to me - and he is broody.

Men get broody?
Yes, apparently it happens that men sometimes feel that they have it all... except a mini-me. They actually really get depressed about not having offspring...

The other half of the problem is that this guy is probably too decent for most Joburg girls. (Yes, he is straight - I know that for a fact.) Plus he won't settle for just anyone - so no, you cannot ask me for his contact details!

The only reason I mentioned this conversation is because I actually understand how my friend feels. I think most people reaching their late twenties have this empty feeling if they're single and ... well, childless.

Who ever said it's fun being single? Torture them!

Friday, July 20, 2007

Fly to the city of love for love?

Yes or No?

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I did it. I deleted all online dating profiles. I am free from fan mail - forever.

When do you take a risk on something that might be?

How willing would you be to risk your heart on a big "what if he/she is the one" gamble?

If you meet someone and you think they are kind of decent and you are attracted to him/her... and he/she feels the same. You go on another date or two, but then he/she leaves the country... but he/she phones you two or three times a day, emails you, gtalks you... and then invite you to visit.

Would you fly thousands of kilometers or play it safe and wait for the next possible Mr/Mrs Perfect?

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

To long distance or not (continued 3)

I met Mr Ireland. He is normal. Interesting.
And on his way to England for 5 months.