Saturday, March 28, 2009

All work no play relationships

One or both married to the job? No good...

You have to have balance in a relationship. Some play, some work and good quality time together.

See, after 30 the pearls of wisdom just spill from my keyboard.

Friday, March 27, 2009

The Getaway

It really is great to be in a relationship with someone like my Leprechaun. Not only doesn't he nag (like some men do) when I want to shop a little; nor does he complain too much that I wake at 6am and by 7am wake him to get ready for the beach; and spends the whole day on the beach; and have the little romantic streak to take me for those tedious beach strolls (I know, it is not easy walking on beach sand)...

So anyway, my pearl of wisdom for the day (now that I am 30...)

Dating someone that does not share your interests will make it a little harder to spend quality time together. You may be so different that between work and hobbies you only get to spend an hour a day together before going to bed.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

I'm in the mood to dish out some wisdom...

I've been reading the Adv. Barbie/Cezanne case on and off in the newspapers. On the one hand I feel sorry for her, on the other I think that what she did was just despicable.

The Summary:

This chick got involved with an older man. He is a bit twisted and manipulative - so he took over playing god with this chick. They got caught doing some nasty stuff and he skipped the country leaving her to face the music.

The Lessons: (you know how much I love my lessons)
  • If you date a pervert and play along, you will eventually get caught - you'll go to jail and be somebody's bitch.
  • If you are in an abusive relationship, you can get out. Dial a number, get out, stay out.
  • You don't need to sink as low as the person you are dating.
  • If you want to sing for the world, make sure you can actually sing.
  • Date someone you respect AND that respects you.
10-4 oor en uit/over I'll be back older and full of lessons and wisdom when I turn 30.

Happy Birthday to ME

... and then there was 2 days left of being in my 20s!

Interestingly enough my life is not more interesting than it was 2 seconds ago. I'm still watching movies and working a whole lot.

I better get good presents this year. Else I will change my will and leave everyone a zap.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

When can I start feeling young again?

30. It really is a big number.

I can still remember my 21st birthday. Standing in the kitchen making all the snacks with my then boyfriend. My best friend arriving late and cleaning out the plates - while talking more than everybody put together.

On my 25th I got horribly drunk on red wine with one of my dearest friends. The poor guy even offered to help me puke (really disgusting, isn't it?). The next day I had a hell of a hangover.

My 28th was fabulous. 5 girls on holiday in Ballito. The night out... the drinks were cheap and I got a lot of free drinks. I was really drunk - at least I had no hangover the next morning.

Why is it that when you turn 30 (or older) it really is just a depressing affair? Don't bs me and tell me I should have a big party because it will make it all better. BS. It won't turn back time, therefore I really don't need to hear "aaah the big 3 0..." wow.

Anyway, if you are still young enough to think birthdays are fun, sod off and go stand in a corner. You make me sick. Speak to me when you turn 30.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

How to survive a break-up

Life throws us many curves, sometimes more than we think we can cope with.

I've been through a lot of break-ups / make-ups and final demises of relationships. Some were particularly hard to get over - others not so much.

Get Stuff

You don't have to go all out to get all new stuff, but changing bedding for a room or changing the colour scheme of 1 area will already be a step in the right direction. As soon as you start erasing the lousy ex's existence from your home, you take away the hold he has and memories of him. (This speeds up the recovering time after a break-up.)

Get a really sexy number to wear out. It doesn't have to be super reavealing or tight, just something that makes you feel like a million bucks.

Connect with Friends

Even if you neglected your friend while you were in a relationship with someone, they will take you back. Friends are forgiving - and besides, everyone understands.

Meet new people. Get your ass out of the house and stop pondering about the what ifs and could have beens. You need to get out and live a life that you never even dreamt about. Join a book club or something.

Get a Hobby

Are you one of those hobbyless people? Then get a hobby. It doesn't have to have sticking power - it just has to be enjoyable for now.

Delete that number

There is a reason it didn't work out. Doesn't matter if it were you or him/her that ended the relationship. Save the number under asshole or idiot if you have to. (It works for me...)

Get Pretty

Go for that facial or day at the spa (invite a friend). You will feel much better for a few hours.

Try a new colour lipstick or shoes - or dress.


You were whole before and you will be whole one day again. Besides he/she never deserved someone like you in the first place.

When you get older... different things matter more than the low-life idiot you dated.

Monday, March 9, 2009

Catch and Release

I watched Catch & Release this weekend. A real tear jerker - but with a good lesson (or 2).


The groom drives off for his bachelor's weekend and dies. His funeral then takes place on their wedding day. The bride-to-be/widow
then finds herself in the midst of lots of drama ie. Mom-in-law asks for the family heirloom on her finger and a possible child that her departed beloved supported.

  • Women tend to rely on their boyfriends/fiances/husbands too much and then something happens and they suddenly have to get up and take control.
  • Women tend to trust too easily and are always the last to know about affairs.
  • Some women too easily let their bf/fiances take the lead in the relationship - when this ends the woman is left to drown in normal life.
The Lessons:
  • If you live with a guy (and depend on his share of the rent etc) then you need to have a signed contract/agreement.
  • Never just trust your partner blindly, but don't be completely psycho about his getaway weekends.
  • Get your will done if you intend on getting married but put a clause in that says this part only kicks in when you are married etc. (In the event of you procrastinating with your will in future.)
  • Make sure you can afford to maintain a lifestyle and home even if it is just for a few months after a break-up/death - just until you can get a new roommate or move to something cheaper.
As always, keep on dating and have fun!