Tuesday, March 10, 2009

How to survive a break-up

Life throws us many curves, sometimes more than we think we can cope with.

I've been through a lot of break-ups / make-ups and final demises of relationships. Some were particularly hard to get over - others not so much.

Get Stuff

You don't have to go all out to get all new stuff, but changing bedding for a room or changing the colour scheme of 1 area will already be a step in the right direction. As soon as you start erasing the lousy ex's existence from your home, you take away the hold he has and memories of him. (This speeds up the recovering time after a break-up.)

Get a really sexy number to wear out. It doesn't have to be super reavealing or tight, just something that makes you feel like a million bucks.

Connect with Friends

Even if you neglected your friend while you were in a relationship with someone, they will take you back. Friends are forgiving - and besides, everyone understands.

Meet new people. Get your ass out of the house and stop pondering about the what ifs and could have beens. You need to get out and live a life that you never even dreamt about. Join a book club or something.

Get a Hobby

Are you one of those hobbyless people? Then get a hobby. It doesn't have to have sticking power - it just has to be enjoyable for now.

Delete that number

There is a reason it didn't work out. Doesn't matter if it were you or him/her that ended the relationship. Save the number under asshole or idiot if you have to. (It works for me...)

Get Pretty

Go for that facial or day at the spa (invite a friend). You will feel much better for a few hours.

Try a new colour lipstick or shoes - or dress.

Conclusion

You were whole before and you will be whole one day again. Besides he/she never deserved someone like you in the first place.

When you get older... different things matter more than the low-life idiot you dated.

1 comment:

cameronsharpe said...

We all have to face rejection in life, relationships, jobs, etc. etc. Just know that everyone in life has been through rejection, even Donald Trump (he has been turned down for bank loans). You get over a fear by facing it. Just rationalize it and do it. My mother always said if they cannot take your money or beat you up - you have everything to gain and nothing to lose - so just do it. By the way there are about 3 billion females in the world, so there are a lot to choose from. So what if a few turn you down, who cares? You have to sort through a lot of weeds to find one beautiful rose.