Now that everything has settled down i can finally relax during the Easter holidays. The family left for Ireland and there are no more scheduled braais and restaurants to visit, no more plans to make or people to phone to remind that they have to be at a specific place to do something, no more bachelors or loading pics onto Facebook. There literally is just the next lifetime to look forward to.
On a nice long weekend like this we like to do very little. We didn't visit with anyone - we went to the movies and watched movies at home. The husband worked (as he owns his own business) a little.
We are taking the teamwork thing to heart nowadays too - we wash clothes, hang it, pack the dishwasher religiously, torture the cat with lots of love and love having a series watching marathon.
You know what I love most about being in a committed relationship? That it is so much easier. Things just seem to fall into place and no nagging required (yet).
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Monday, April 5, 2010
Monday, September 14, 2009
Will a relationship last across a cultural divide?
This is a pretty tough question to answer especially since my busted relationships were always with people from the same (sorta) cultural backgrounds as me.
I guess it all depends on what is important to you and just how much you are willing to compromise.
In my current relationship:
I guess it all depends on what is important to you and just how much you are willing to compromise.
In my current relationship:
- He is English (obviously, being a Leprechaun and all)
- but he understands my language
- He is allergic to cats
- but after 2 years he has conversations (just like me) with the cat
- I really never liked spending too much time with parentals
- but I like his and don't mind seeing them (besides... I like Leprechauns)
- I really hate cooking
- but I cook for him - sometimes
- We make decisions together
- but also have things we do apart
- Can you see yourself becoming part of a team?
- Does he/she take your interests/likes/dislikes into consideration before planning something?
- Do you like his/her skew nose/mouth or teeth - or can you stand that weird laugh?
- Do you feel special after the newness wore off?
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Can beggars be choosers?
Yes! Definitely!
Why do people think that when you are single you can't choose to wait until you've met the right person? I don't think there is anything wrong with being 30 and not married. A piece of paper won't really make such a big difference in your life - unless it is a ticket to some exotic destination.
Who wants to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship anyway? A warm body in bed that you don't care for = a can of rotten peas, but a warm body that you care for = someone to share that last rolo with!
Another reason to rather be a chooser... the high rate of divorces.
Anyway, so I got a comment on my previous post... and the person thinks I'm single. Ok, so the cat has been out of the bag for... um oh well, more than a year - I'm engaged. Have been for more than a year now... to my Leprechaun.
Why do people think that when you are single you can't choose to wait until you've met the right person? I don't think there is anything wrong with being 30 and not married. A piece of paper won't really make such a big difference in your life - unless it is a ticket to some exotic destination.
Who wants to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship anyway? A warm body in bed that you don't care for = a can of rotten peas, but a warm body that you care for = someone to share that last rolo with!
Another reason to rather be a chooser... the high rate of divorces.
Anyway, so I got a comment on my previous post... and the person thinks I'm single. Ok, so the cat has been out of the bag for... um oh well, more than a year - I'm engaged. Have been for more than a year now... to my Leprechaun.
Saturday, March 28, 2009
All work no play relationships
One or both married to the job? No good...
You have to have balance in a relationship. Some play, some work and good quality time together.
See, after 30 the pearls of wisdom just spill from my keyboard.
You have to have balance in a relationship. Some play, some work and good quality time together.
See, after 30 the pearls of wisdom just spill from my keyboard.
Monday, December 29, 2008
Who is the worst?
The man or the cat with his particular ways? Sometimes I wonder...
I love that he is Irish (born in the country of the little people) but can't hold his liquor! I love it even more that I'm browner than him (even though I have a fair skin). I love it even more that his shoulders are wider than mine... on a bad day :)
I love that my cat likes him. (Not that the cat thinks he isn't the ruler.) I love that the cat lets him take care of him and bites him just as hard as he bites me.
Well, anyway, happy 2009 and all that is good!
I love that he is Irish (born in the country of the little people) but can't hold his liquor! I love it even more that I'm browner than him (even though I have a fair skin). I love it even more that his shoulders are wider than mine... on a bad day :)
I love that my cat likes him. (Not that the cat thinks he isn't the ruler.) I love that the cat lets him take care of him and bites him just as hard as he bites me.
Well, anyway, happy 2009 and all that is good!
Friday, August 22, 2008
Every relationship | adds something new to your life
In my opinion, every relationship has some good. It might not be the biggest part or the part that you will remember after the relationship ends, but still ... you might have found something that is you in this relationship.
In a new relationship you (usually) get exposed to new things - things that were there, but never entered your little world. It might be something as simple as a dish or a band.
A guy that I dated in one of my very first relationships in Johannesburg, opened a new world of music to me. I used to listen only to pop and rock - but never heavy rock. To this day, I love listening to Linkin Park.
Another thing that has stayed with me was a line in a letter that a guy gave to me. It went something along the lines of: He wishes that he could enjoy life the way I do. Yes, it may come from a time that I didn't have a mortage and car to pay, but sometimes, just sometimes, I still see those words and I wonder, why am I not just jumping and doing the things that I want - then of course I convince myself and do it.
With my fiance I learnt that curries aren't bad and that his cheesecake "fetish" sometimes is a bad thing :) oh, and that not all Leprechauns wear bells on their shoes.
In a new relationship you (usually) get exposed to new things - things that were there, but never entered your little world. It might be something as simple as a dish or a band.
A guy that I dated in one of my very first relationships in Johannesburg, opened a new world of music to me. I used to listen only to pop and rock - but never heavy rock. To this day, I love listening to Linkin Park.
Another thing that has stayed with me was a line in a letter that a guy gave to me. It went something along the lines of: He wishes that he could enjoy life the way I do. Yes, it may come from a time that I didn't have a mortage and car to pay, but sometimes, just sometimes, I still see those words and I wonder, why am I not just jumping and doing the things that I want - then of course I convince myself and do it.
With my fiance I learnt that curries aren't bad and that his cheesecake "fetish" sometimes is a bad thing :) oh, and that not all Leprechauns wear bells on their shoes.
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