When man was created...

the best piece was taken to make a woman.

Since getting back to work I have gotten a gourmet sandwich, water, snack and yogurt packed by my new hubby. The lunch thing may not last that long, but I love it!

A great idea on spending time together would be to spend some time together to spice up your lunchbox and take turns in making them (while you supervise).

The wedding

What can I say - my wedding was perfect. We had fun (in the sun). He looked gorgeous in his white shirt and the guests looked a bit sunburned.

Going on a getaway with family and friends can be hard - for someone like me that jealously guard my free time. I loved seeing my loved ones, but all I wanted to do was be on the beach with the brand new hubby.

How old is old enough to get married?

In my opinion, 18 really is too early to think of marriage, maybe 22 is old enough, maybe not. You haven't done anything yet but go to school @ 18. You haven't gone to university or college, nor have you really grown into the person you will be for the rest of your life. Besides... marry young, get kids young @ 18... it just sounds like kids trying to play house with little dolls.

Don't get me wrong, there might be 1 in 50 million that can actually do the get married before your ears dried thing successfully, but... it takes work, patience, experience and a whole lot of other things.

My advice to parents and big sisters and brothers that see their siblings go down this road blindly - send them to this blog. :)

So, I've now been a Mrs for 2 weeks now. Long time if you ask me. I'm back all tanned and brown from our beach wedding in Mozambique. Loved it, had some really beautiful pics taken and my family and friends LOVED my wedding - no stuffy speeches or getting dressed in anything fancy.

The ugly truth about dating and relationships

Getting to the stage where you and your new squeeze are finally exclusive (or dating steadily) has its obstacles. The very first being to find a suitable candidate, then having to vie for his/her attention, fighting off the other interested parties, keeping the attention focused and making time to get alone time.

This morning on my way to work one of the local radio stations had a call-in about: "do you trust your partner?". The callers that I heard were women and they seemed to think that it is acceptable to have that nagging feeling that he is up to no good the whole time while he is out of sight. Which is really sad.

Now at the stage of your relationship where the shine of it all has somewhat worn off and you actually do go out without your squeeze - there is always the possibility that some new toy will catch your squeeze's eye. You could now run screaming to a private investigator and frantically trying to access his email and sms messages - or you could stay calm and not become a paranoid freak that will anyway drive your squeeze away.

In the event of your squeeze doing the unacceptable - you will have to make the choice (a) cut them loose (b) scare the living crap out of him/her. If the problem persists (after choosing b) - get that damn third party in a public place with a loud confrontation. Everybody would like to know the scarlet letter wearing, cheap gigolo/whore that cannot keep their knickers on when in the company of decent people.

Long distance relationships

The hardest relationship to maintain is a long distance relationship - I know, I tried it once.

Scenario:
Guy dates girl in home country; Visits every 3 months; Telephonic contact weekly; Email contact daily; Girl has admirers and an ex boyfriend that regularly phones;

How to handle the situation:
a) Give her space and don't start a fight about it and
b) you may be seen as not caring enough
c) Or put it out there and
d) push her right back into the ex's waiting arms

Dating Advice?

Anyone have any objections if I convert this blog into a dating advice site (since I no longer date and almost being a married woman)?

Setting up house together

It is official, we have bought a house together and moved in. We are now co-owners of a beautiful penthouse in the suburbs.

We still have some unsorted boxes, but I am hoping to get to them between Christmas and New Year.

We are getting married in less than 3 months... and I can't wait for my week on the beach for the wedding. It is going to be awesome! Think beach, beach, beach.... aaah....

So anyway, happy merriness and all that jazz.

3 lazy bums in bed

Today the 3 of us (The Genie, The Leprechaun and me) only got out of bed at 11am. I think it is an all-time record for us.


We usually get out of house by 10pm (take into account that we get up an hour before leaving)... anyway... no more late night movie watching :)

Will a relationship last across a cultural divide?

This is a pretty tough question to answer especially since my busted relationships were always with people from the same (sorta) cultural backgrounds as me.

I guess it all depends on what is important to you and just how much you are willing to compromise.

In my current relationship:

• He is English (obviously, being a Leprechaun and all)
• but he understands my language

• He is allergic to cats
• but after 2 years he has conversations (just like me) with the cat

• I really never liked spending too much time with parentals
• but I like his and don't mind seeing them (besides... I like Leprechauns)

• I really hate cooking
• but I cook for him - sometimes

• We make decisions together
• but also have things we do apart

What is important in a relationship and how do you know if it will work for you?

• Can you see yourself becoming part of a team?
  
• Does he/she take your interests/likes/dislikes into consideration before planning something?
• Do you like his/her skew nose/mouth or teeth - or can you stand that weird laugh?
• Do you feel special after the newness wore off?
  

I can't believe I fell in love with a Leprechaun

... words straight from the uber romantic movie, PS. I love you.

I really can't believe that I just happened to find my own Leprechaun on African soil and just happened to fall in love with him. Yep. I'm damn lucky.

I've heard it so many times that obviously I will be doing a post about the question - "Does marriages/relationships across cultural borders work?"... but that is in my next post :)

6 months people - then I get married and become Mrs Deysel-Leprechaun. Pretty cool.